10 days of bad weather in Seaport Dover, made me realize, I needed a reset in life.
In the previous update I told you about the bad weather I faced in Dover. I stayed with my boat in Dover Marina for 10 days waiting for the weather to calm down.
During those days, I had conversations with someone who, like me, had a late-stage ASD diagnosis. She told me about her approach to life, how she experienced it, and how she dealt with life's challenges. I'd never looked at it that way before. I was always in a hurry. Once my boat docked, I wanted to leave the next day for new destinations. Why? I have no idea.
Through what she told me, I began to see that her approach might work for me too, and I decided to reset. This changed my perspective on this boat trip, and I realized that the journey itself, and everything I experience daily, was more important than the final destination. So the Mediterranean could wait. I was allowed to savor every moment of this journey. That's a completely different approach than what I used before, but that's how I decided to approach it.
In Summer of 2023 I had the plan to sail from The Netherlands, to Belgium and then to England to visit London. But 2023 brought a Summer full of hard wind and bad weather, so I had to cancel that plan.
In beginning of 2025, I introduced the plan to sail motorvessel Lady Liselot to The Med, The Mediterranean. Since this trawler yacht has an airdraft of 5.3m with the mast down, I can only reach The Med, by sea or by the river Danube. I decided to pick the most challenging route: Via The North Sea, The Channel, which later becomes The Atlantic Ocean.
But, that brave decission caused a lot of stress in my head, causing weeks of procrastination.
Weeks became months.
BUT, on one point in August 2025, I decided: "F*CK IT, JUST DO IT".
All this also caused that I decided not to produce any longform videos. The footage is there, but whilst travelling, I want to be in the journey and not being a content producer.
Part of my procrastination is the 'fear' of not knowing what will happen when I arrive somewhere. I claim I am searching for new destinations, but that sentence is way, way out of my comfort zone. Because of my ASS, new destinations always create underlying stress. The problem is that I often have 10 scenarios planned out in my head, which then turn out to be completely inaccurate in practice.
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10 days of bad weather in Seaport Dover, made me realize, I needed a reset in life.
